I am often asked why i choose to speak out about Domestic Abuse as, for some unknown reason, many see this topic as still being Taboo.
Well, the reason is simple.
In order to build a society where Domestic abuse is a thing of the past we need to bring attention to the violent behaviour that is a part of Domestic Abuse.
Abuse is nothing to be embarrassed about. I learnt this the hard way.The long way. Looking back now, i understand my x husbands behaviour was his problem and not mine. It was his mistake and he should be embarrassed.
I used to make jokes about his behaviour to make light of the bad situation i was in but deep down it was tearing me up.
I remember o
ne day i was asked to get him a glass of water and obediently, did as i was asked. After handing him the glass and taking a sip he lost his temper. The water wasnt the right temperature for him. Another instance, a light globe had blown outside near our clothes line (i was unaware of this as i didnt hang clothes out in the dark). He wanted to go outside for something and then realized the light was blown. According to him, that was my fault and i was stupid for not knowing and changing it ready for him. I was belittled and told how useless i was (again).
While those examples above are smaller incidences of domestic abuse they are still just that ABUSE.
When behaviour like this becomes apart of your daily life things can fall down around you quickly. Your confidence, self esteem, self worth and more.
You lose your identity and you become a shadow of your former self. You become submissive and compliant.
This is a feeling i wish no person ever had to face. No person should ever be made to feel inferior or worthless. Each one of us has something special to offer to others. Something that makes us unique. Its so vital that we dont forget or lose that. Instead of being torn down we should be building each other up and empowering each other to further ourselves and the causes we fight for.
By speaking out against Domestic Abuse we are helping society to understand that this type of behaviour is wrong and should never be tolerated under any circumstances. In turn, society can focus on supporting one another. Creating a strong network of couragous people who arent afriad to say what they believe and fight for it!
By speaking out we are letting victims know that they arent alone and there is hope of a better future.
Together, we can create this future!
Start by swearing the white ribbon oath at www.whiteribbon.org and go from there. Whether you are a victim, survivor, advocate or you just want to make a difference in the short time we are here on this earth it doesnt matter! Greatness doesnt come from doing big things, it comes from doing small things in a big way. Start today, for a better tomorrow.