In order to maintain a successful marriage I am a firm believer in one thing; your spouse is the most important person in your life. Other relationships present in your life are second to it and this includes the relationship you have with your children.
A persons marriage is part of their personal investment guaranteeing their future happiness. This doesnt mean that your children are not important or that you love them any less than you would otherwise.
By putting other peoples interests before your partners can cause unwanted strain in your relationship.
In an ideal world you would be able to make everyone happy all at once but unfortunately that world isnt a reality. All anyone can do is make the most of the situation they are provided with.
Taking my young daughters into consideration, I want them to grow up in a happy and loving environment. A stable home where mummy and daddy show a genuine affection and love for one another because this will become what they consider a normal relationship and anything less than this is unacceptable.
I want my daughters to enter a relationship (when the time comes) knowing that the dynamics of their new partnership must include C. R. R. Something that is almost like C.P.R as it can help to save your marriage and keep it going strong.
What is C.R.R?!
These 3 elements are key in ensuring the longevity and success of your partnership and after having formaly been in amarriage where this didnt exist I can atest to the importance of C.R.R.
This is the foundation I have built my (current) marriage off and i have never been happier.
My husband and I make time to spend together. We cuddle every day and every night and yes, we do include our girls in our cuddles and snuggles.
My husband and I openly communicate about any concerns, problems or stresses that we may have and discuss them together.
While I do not require my husbands approval prior to me acting, I always request his opinion and never make important decisions without him.
We share our household chores; I cook, he washes up after dinner. I dust, he vacuums.
We continually work as a team and treat each other as equals. Income is not a factor. We both go to work to provide for our family and we both contribute our wages to running our houseold and business. As a husband and wife we share our responsibilities.
Everything above is what our daughters witness and i feel confident knowing that when their time comes they will only settle for the best and nothing less. They will not tolerate abuse or degradation and they will be confident empowered women.
My children will not be reliant upon myself or my husband. They will have the confidence to do as they have seen and ensure their own personal happiness as this will ensure their success in later life.
By performing C.R.R in your relationship and keeping your spouse your number one priority you are playing your part to ensure your children grow up in a 2 parent household full of love and hope...
Think about your parents. You love them but they are not your main priority. Your husband or wife is.
When you follow this relationship rule, happiness within your home can only grow and through this you will be able to provide, encourage and support you entire family on a much higher level.